Updated by the Progyny Editorial Team — December 2025.
Adoption involves several key steps, from choosing an agency to completing a home study and navigating legal and logistical requirements. Each journey is unique, but knowing what to expect can help you plan and feel more confident as you move forward.
There are some misconceptions about adoption that can affect your decision-making and emotional well-being. Getting accurate information can help you feel confident as you explore this family-building path.
One common misconception is that adoption is only a last resort. People build their families through adoption for many reasons, and it is not always tied to infertility.
Find the right adoption agency for you
Choosing an adoption agency is an important part of the process. The experience is in-depth, and it helps to partner with an agency you feel comfortable with. The agency staff, your attorney, and your support network will become important parts of your family-building team.
Here are a few questions to ask as you begin your search:
- What are your hours, and how responsive are you? Adoption does not follow a 9 to 5 schedule. An agency that is reachable when you need support can help you feel more prepared.
- How long is your matching list, and how does it change? This can help you understand timelines and set expectations from the beginning.
- How do you connect with expecting parents, and what is your matching process? Learning how an agency builds relationships and manages matching can give you insight into what your experience may be like.
Choosing an agency is a personal decision. As you compare your options, here are a few extra steps to take:
- Read reviews and ask to connect with adoptive parents who have used the agency.
- Be mindful of promotional materials that promise short timelines. Every adoption timeline is different.
- Ask for a clear breakdown of fees early in the process. You should receive this information in writing.
Adoption costs
Costs vary based on the type of adoption you pursue. Talk directly with each agency about all costs, including potential upfront fees, ongoing expenses, and billing practices. For domestic newborn adoption, fees may range from $30,000 to $60,000.
Adoption logistics
Every adoption experience is unique, but there are some shared logistics to keep in mind.
Timeline
There is no standard timeline from starting with an agency to being matched with a child. The process may take a few months or up to two years. Stay in close communication with your agency so you have a realistic understanding of what to expect at each stage.
Paperwork
Adoption involves a significant amount of paperwork. This documentation helps move the process forward. Your agency team will guide you, help you stay organized, and explain what is needed from you.
Legal support
You may have legal questions along the way. Building a reliable legal team can help you navigate any challenges and understand your rights and responsibilities. Your agency can also help you find legal support that fits your needs.
Home study for adoption
Your adoption agency will schedule a home study as part of your process. A home study includes interviews and a review of your home environment. This helps the agency learn about you, understand how a child would fit into your life, and ensure safety for everyone involved. This process can take several months. Once it’s complete, you will be eligible for matches!
Summary
Adoption is a meaningful way to grow your family, and understanding the process can help you feel more at ease. Take time to choose an agency you trust, learn what to expect with timelines and paperwork, and get familiar with costs and legal steps. With the right support, you can move forward feeling informed and supported.
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Disclaimer: The information provided by Progyny is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice. Always consult a lawyer for legal guidance.