Updated by the Progyny Editorial Team — October 2025.
A fertility journey can be exhausting — physically and emotionally — and knowing how to support your partner can make a real difference. You can help ease their experience by offering both emotional and practical support. Below are a few ways to show up for one another as you navigate this process together.
Offer emotional support
Listen
Your partner may need to talk about their experience often and in depth. For many people, talking helps them process emotions. Simply listening, without offering advice or solutions, can be deeply validating.
Ask what they need
It’s a common misconception that partners should automatically understand each other’s needs. In reality, no one can read minds — even the most intuitive partner sometimes needs guidance. If your partner is going through fertility treatment, ask them what kind of support would feel most helpful right now.
Adapt your lifestyle alongside them
If your partner is going through treatment such as in vitro fertilization, there may be restrictions on things like alcohol or tobacco. Choosing to make similar adjustments can be an affirming and tangible way to show support. For example, if they’re not drinking, you might join them in abstaining. Even if they don’t ask you to do so, mirroring their lifestyle changes demonstrates care and shared commitment.
Be engaged
Fertility treatment can involve frequent appointments, lab work, and tracking. Attending appointments when possible, taking notes, and helping remember questions for the healthcare provider can relieve some of your partner’s mental load. Learning common fertility terms can also make communication easier and help you stay connected to what they’re experiencing.
Offer practical support
Consider getting a semen analysis
Male infertility, which includes sperm-related issues as well as hormonal, anatomical, and genetic conditions, is the sole cause in about 20% of infertility cases and contributes to up to about 50% of all cases.
If your partner is undergoing treatment, having a semen analysis is a concrete way to support them and help rule out other contributing factors. A semen analysis measures semen volume and pH, as well as sperm concentration, shape, and movement — all of which can affect the ability of sperm to fertilize an egg.
Get a blood test
Blood testing can also identify possible causes of infertility. For example, follicle-stimulating hormone helps regulate sperm production, and luteinizing hormone supports testosterone production. Testing for these, along with prolactin and androgens, can help clarify whether hormonal factors may be affecting fertility.
Help keep things organized
Fertility treatment often involves multiple medications, supplements, and appointments. Helping your partner manage schedules, reminders, or medication timing is a meaningful way to ease their burden. Your support helps create more space for them to rest and care for their emotional well-being throughout treatment.
Whether it’s getting answers or finding additional resources, your Progyny Care Advocate is here to support you and your partner.
Disclaimer: The information provided by Progyny is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical guidance.