Episode 5: LGBTQ+ Family Building: Two Moms and the Journey to Build Their Family
For Pride month, we’re rolling out four episodes that cover family building for the LGBTQ+ community. The first episode is about what it’s like to build a family as a same-sex couple. There are important decisions to make up front such as, who’s going to carry the baby? How do you choose a sperm donor? And which fertility treatment – IUI, IVF, or reciprocal IVF – do you choose?
But even when you’ve made all of those decisions, sometimes things don’t go as planned. In this episode, Katie Acosta and Hilary Smith explain how their chosen family building path didn’t work, how they embarked on a new fertility journey called reciprocal IVF, and how they navigated the legal logistics with their new family.
Guests: Katie Acosta and Hilary Smith
Expert: Dr. Shahin Ghadir, SCRC
Host: Melissa Maldonado, Implementations Manager at Progyny
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Melissa began her career in the healthcare industry with an outpatient radiology company focused on excellent customer service. During this time, Melissa developed a passion for healthcare and the focus on high quality care, which continued to grow when she began her career at Progyny as a Patient Care Advocate. Today, Melissa actively works with Progyny members to help them achieve their fertility goals and oversees the Patient Care Advocate team. She also enjoys watching Florida State Football and traveling with her husband.
Katie and Hilary live in Atlanta, GA. When they first met, Katie was raising her then ten-year-old son from a previous relationship. They married in New York City in December of 2012 because at the time marriage was not legal in Georgia. Their marriage was not recognized in Georgia for another three years, by which time Katie was already pregnant with their daughter. Katie became pregnant via reciprocal IVF after Hilary had tried unsuccessfully to conceive for two years. Hilary went through 8 IUIs and one unsuccessful IVF transfer. After Hilary’s IVF procedure did not work, they decided that Katie would try to get pregnant with their last remaining frozen embryos. Two frozen embryos were transferred into Katie’s uterus and one finally took! They now have a happy healthy two-and-half year old daughter and a 17-year-old son.
As a founding partner of Southern California Reproductive Center, Dr. Ghadir is double board-certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology as well as Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. He is currently an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and also at the Keck School of Medicine at USC.
Music From This Episode:
Track: Golden Sphere
Track: Dawn I
Artist: Doctor Turtle
Track: His Last Share Of The Stars
Artist: Celophane Sam
Track: Run Hound
Artist: Kai Engel
Track: Holiday Gift