Written by the Progyny Editorial Team. Reviewed by Dr. Jennifer Trachtenberg — May 2025.
Returning to work after you become a new parent may bring a range of emotions. You may feel concerned about how your employer or coworkers will treat you when you come back. What’s changed since you went on leave? If you don’t jump back into long hours, will your manager understand?
Try to limit your worry — your new role as a parent has already made you better at your job! Studies have shown big benefits:
- You’re connected with other working parents, building supportive networks that make your workday smoother and more productive.
- You’re more likely to lead collaboratively, with empathy, and delegate duties that others can handle.
- New parents often become better at solving problems, seeing the bigger picture at work, and bouncing back from challenges.
Put these improvements to work
Set expectations
Your new role as a parent does impact your work and workplace relationships, but these changes can be positive. You can now connect with other working parents!
Be realistic about what you can give and be direct about how and when you will work. Make your schedule as clear as possible. This can help you manage your time better. Plus, your employer and coworkers won’t have to guess when you will be available.
Think differently
Make a list of your strengths and think about how you can use them to suit your new life as a working parent. If you were the hardest-working person in the office before parenthood, maybe you could become the most efficient. If you were the best mentor or project leader, perhaps now you can become a master delegator.
Watch out for bias
Becoming a parent is life-changing, but it can also come with the side of bias. New parents often face unfair assumptions, especially when they ask for flexible hours or to work from home. Some employers misinterpret this, thinking the parent isn’t committed to their job.
It can also be harder for new parents to move up at work. People often assume the birthing parent is less focused or available, which can lead to them being overlooked for promotions or key projects.
And then there is compensation. Studies have found that the birthing parent often earns less money with each child they have. At the same time, some non-birthing parents, particularly fathers, may see increases in their pay, showing that old ideas about parenting are still present.
If something feels off to you:
- Write it down. Include dates, what was said or done, and who was involved. It may be helpful later if you need to take further action.
- Talk to your manager or HR about what you’re experiencing. Let them know how it’s affecting you and what kind of support you need.
- Tap into your new network of working parents. How have they dealt with bias?
Know your rights
You deserve to be treated fairly. If you think your rights are being violated, reach out to HR, a union rep, or even consult a lawyer. Getting advice from people who understand the system can help you decide what to do next.
Under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act, it is unlawful to discriminate against an employee due to pregnancy, childbirth, or related medical conditions. If you believe you have experienced such discrimination, you have the right to file a charge with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC).
All in all
Most working parents struggle at some point. You’re not alone! Ask for support from friends and family to help you through the transition. Communicate with your employer and colleagues regarding your needs. They may need a reminder of the value you bring each day to your team.
For more information about returning to work, check out our comprehensive parental leave toolkit.
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Disclaimer: The information provided by Progyny is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice. Always consult a lawyer for legal guidance.