Developmental Milestones: Ages 3 to 4

Physical 

• Jumping, running, and climbing playgrounds are becoming their favorite activities.  

• Your child’s fine motor skills have come a long way, and they can probably string beads and build blocks.  

• Encourage them to color pictures or cut paper with safe scissors to further develop the tripod grasp.  

• Potty training can be tough. Give yourself and your child some grace. There may be some trial and error before you find the method that works best.  

Language  

• They have a vocabulary of around 200 words and love to communicate with you through telling stories and asking questions.  

• Strangers should be able to understand most of what your child tells them.  

• Telling you what opposites they see, like small or big, is a great way for them to communicate with you. 

Cognitive  

• Figuring out how to make toys work, do small puzzles, and build structures is a great learning experience for them. 

• Your child will avoid touching hot objects, like the stove, when warned.  

• They’re learning colors, the alphabet, and basic numbers. 

Emotional and social 

• At this age, kids move from playing next to each other to playing with each other. They may even have a few favorite friends.  

• Sharing is hard for kids and may cause a few tantrums while they’re still learning better ways to express their emotions.  

• They’re ready to further develop cognitive and social skills by going to preschool. 

Physical 

• Your child is learning new skills, such as skipping, somersaults, catching, and throwing. This is a great time to play outdoors together. 

• They should be able to get dressed by themselves.  

• Drawing with a pencil between their thumb and forefinger is a fun activity. Your child may try drawing people and telling you stories about their pictures. 

Language 

• Your child can speak in sentences and use five or six words in each sentence. 

• They can say their first and last names. 

• You may hear them singing favorite songs — join in or record a fun video! 

Cognitive 

• When reading together, your child will be able to predict what will happen next.  

• They’re learning to count and recognize numbers and letters. You can have them practice writing their numbers and letters in pudding or shaving cream! 

• They’re also learning to follow three-part directions. 

Emotional and social  

• There still may be some meltdowns, but your child is learning to manage those big emotions with your guidance.  

• They’re showing empathy and want to comfort others who are hurt or sad.  

• They will enjoy pretending to be someone different, like a teacher or superhero, or playing dress up. 

• Kids love to help adults. Show them how they can help around the house!