Episode 147: A Teacher’s Dream to Become a Mom 

Amber Walther: I’ve always known we wanted to be parents. I think I dreamed more about being a mom than I did my own wedding day, because that was just something I know I’ve always wanted. Currently, because I don’t have children of my own, I always tell my students they’re my kiddos. They’re my babies — I love them, and I’m here for them.  

Julie Campbell: When she started entering the world of IVF, and more invasive fertility treatment, she knew that she might need to take some personal time. 

Amber Walther: I didn’t want them to worry that I had COVID. Especially students that have trauma, I didn’t want them to think I abandoned them, and I wasn’t coming back. So, it was important to me to share. 

I went off my birth control in August of 2020 because I had a gut feeling that things weren’t going to be easy for us. I have some other medical conditions. So, I decided that we should try it on our own. But it wasn’t going very well because I didn’t get my period for like another three months. And it was an entire saga with my first OB-GYN. Awful would be the way that I could describe my experience. 

When I sent a message, it was evident the nurses weren’t actually looking at my chart when I had voiced concerns about my period not coming after three months. And when it finally did, it was a regular they just were lackadaisical and didn’t care. I was given Clomid with no instructions, I was just told to take the Clomid and have sex, no specific timing, no windows. 

We did Clomid for three months but had been trying on our own before and after the rounds of Clomid. And I literally for like six months went for bloodwork every month and like every time we got a negative pregnancy test, I just got more and more upset. 

Julie Campbell: It’s not only IVF that can be difficult. The trying and failing can be emotionally exhausting. And taking medication like Clomid for an extended period can be especially challenging as well. 

Amber Walther: Clomid is the devil drug. I definitely struggle with anxiety. But I wouldn’t consider myself depressed and on Clomid, I was just straight-up depressed. I would just come home from work and just like sit on the couch and have no like oomph to do anything. So yeah, I knew I needed a fertility doctor. 

I finally ended up getting an appointment. But before I had an appointment at the fertility clinic in June, I had requested one last test from my OB-GYN and I asked for an HSG. And lo and behold, the test showed that my one tube wasn’t visible.  

I was thinking that we could do one round of IVF and transfer by the end of July. And we’d be right on time for our “timeline” that I was playing to so badly. And we’re all in, a lot of bloodwork and false hope. So right before starting my first round of IVF, I had what’s called a biochemical pregnancy, except the clinic couldn’t really say if it was or if it wasn’t. I went for baseline, my HCG levels were up for baseline again, and HCG levels went up a little bit again. And then they dropped back down. I felt like I didn’t get a chance to be sad or grieve that it was even a loss because I hadn’t even known that I was maybe kind of pregnant or fully pregnant. It was so early on. And again, like I said, it was just kind of like, all right, hurry up and move on, because they got to get this cracka-lacking and during the summer. My first round of IVF. Unfortunately, I had zero viable embryos. And so, I immediately wanted to do a second round. We decided to do a second round before we even got the results of our first PGT-A testing because I figured I should bank some embryos. And unfortunately, my second round of IVF, although we had four embryos that were sent out for PGT-A testing, no embryos were viable. So, I had gone through two full cycles of IVF and had zero viable embryos. I was only 30. My amazing and incredible friend, Julie, decided that I couldn’t stay at the clinic I was at, and that I needed to go elsewhere.  

Julie Campbell: When she expressed to me that she was having difficulty with this clinic, I knew I couldn’t let this go on. She had already been through so much. And it was so hard for me to watch her and Stephen go through this from the sidelines. I recommended one of my favorite clinics and doctors and she said well, they don’t take my insurance and I definitely can’t afford it. 

I was quite familiar with this specific clinic. And I knew that they had some programs available that could potentially help with the cost. And I also knew that they were the right clinic that could actually help my friend. 

Amber Walther: He used a low simulation approach with less medication. And I stimmed for longer, I’m pretty sure I stimmed for like 15 days, as opposed to the first two rounds, I think it was only like 10 and 11. 

Julie Campbell: The doctor makes the difference. There’s not one IVF protocol for everyone. Depending on you and your specific situation, your protocol might be different. Everybody is different. This is why it’s so critical that people are paired with the doctor in the clinic that is right for them. 

Amber Walther: So that cycle went amazing. And I have three healthy and viable embryos to use for transfer from that cycle, which was honestly amazing. 

Julie Campbell: When we recorded with Amber, she had three embryos and had the plan to transfer one of them. Well, here’s the thing that was like, what, a year ago? It’s been almost a year since we recorded this conversation with Amber. And I’m thrilled to say that just recently, Amber and Stephen welcomed their perfect daughter, Avery Mae into the world. And I must say that I take special pride in this one. 

For anyone who’s listening to this right now who feels stuck. I want you to know that the right doctor and clinic are out there. And it’s worth searching for the right one for you.