Written by the Progyny Editorial Team. Reviewed by the Progyny Clinical Team - September 2026.
While there's no universal recommendation for when you can have sex after delivery, most healthcare providers recommend waiting at least 6 to 8 weeks.
"When can I have sex again?" is the top question heard by providers, but there are a few others that come up often too.
Why is waiting a good idea?
Waiting gives your body time to heal and reduces the risk of complications. This applies to vaginal births and C-sections. Every healing experience is different, so be sure to talk to your provider if you have any concerns.
They may suggest you wait longer depending on the nature of your delivery. If you had an episiotomy or other incision, the time it takes to heal varies based on how extensive it was and where the cutting was done.
What if I have no interest in sex?
That's totally understandable, and very common. After all, your body has gone through so much, and you're likely exhausted from taking care of your newborn. There are other factors that can affect your libido (sex drive) postpartum, too. They include:
Hormonal fluctuations
Your progesterone and estrogen levels increase during pregnancy and drop after childbirth. While progesterone can return to pre-pregnancy levels in 3 to 6 months, estrogen levels may take up to a year, especially if you're breastfeeding.
These two hormonal drops can lead to mood swings, hair loss, fatigue, vaginal dryness, and low libido.
Body changes
Your body has been through a lot. You may feel less attractive or less confident in it right now. Not everyone experiences the same changes, but some common ones include body aches and pains, incontinence (loss of bladder control), and constipation.
You may also deal with the baby weight sticking around for longer than you'd expect or want.
And that's on top of everything else mentioned. During this time, it's really important to give yourself some grace.
Will having sex hurt?
When your libido does return, sex may be uncomfortable at first.
Vaginal dryness, tenderness from a tear or episiotomy, scar tissue, and lower estrogen levels, particularly if you're breastfeeding, can all contribute to pain or sensitivity. A C-section does not prevent vaginal dryness, and you may also need to avoid pressure on your incision.
Here are some tips to try when you feel ready to resume intimacy:
- Go slowly and try not to expect too much. You might start with closeness, massage, or oral stimulation before trying penetration.
- If you do try intercourse, choose a position that lets you control the depth and pace, such as being on top or lying side by side.
- Using a water- or silicone-based personal lubricant can help with dryness and make sex more comfortable. If you use latex condoms, avoid oil-based lubricants, which can weaken the material.
- Talk openly with your partner about what feels good, what doesn't, and when you want to stop.
If sex remains painful, or you have burning, bleeding, or concerns about healing, reach out to your provider. They can help identify what's happening and recommend treatment.
How soon can I get pregnant after giving birth?
Sooner than you may think. You will ovulate before you get your first postpartum period, which means you can get pregnant if you have unprotected sex during this time.
Most providers recommended waiting at least 6 months before becoming pregnant again. They may recommend waiting even longer depending on your unique pregnancy and delivery.
Talk to your provider about birth control options before your baby is born. When birth control will be provided varies - right after delivery, before you leave the hospital, or at your first postpartum follow-up visit.
Key takeaway
Remember, the best time to start having sex again is when you, and your partner if you have one, are physically, mentally, and emotionally ready.
Progyny is here to support you. If you have any questions, just ask your Progyny Care Advocate.
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Disclaimer: The information provided by Progyny is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical guidance.
